​​Everything I do as a therapist is rooted in a trauma-informed and attachment-based lens. This means I’m always thinking about how past experiences, especially in early relationships, shape how we feel, think, and connect today. Whether we’re working through conflict in your relationship, untangling internal beliefs that keep you stuck, or learning to regulate your nervous system, I approach it with the understanding that your brain and body have been doing what they needed to survive and that healing becomes possible in the presence of safety, attunement, and support.

The Foundation of My Work

therapeutic approaches for chandler couples

  • ​​Trauma-informed care means we recognize that behavior makes sense in context. It invites us to stay curious rather than critical. It also helps us move at a pace that feels both safe and effective -- not rushing insight, but guiding you toward real change.
  • ​​Attachment theory tells us that we’re wired to seek connection and co-regulation. When those connections feel threatening or unreliable, our systems adapt. Sometimes those adaptations become protective patterns that no longer serve us. Understanding your attachment system helps us work directly with the parts of you that crave closeness, fear rejection, or shut down when things feel too much.
  • ​​Developmental neuroscience adds a deeper layer by helping us understand when those adaptations were learned and how they show up in your nervous system. Our brains wire in relationship — and they heal there too. That’s why therapy, when done well, becomes a space for reparative relational experience.
  • ​​Arousal regulation is a fancy term for helping your nervous system stay within a window of tolerance. When we’re flooded with emotion or totally shut down, it’s almost impossible to process, connect, or respond clearly. I help clients learn how to track their arousal states, make sense of their reactions, and shift toward grounded presence in session and in real life.
  • ​​And AIP — the Adaptive Information Processing model — is what EMDR is based on. It’s the idea that our brains naturally want to heal, but when something overwhelms our system, the memory can get stuck in an unprocessed form. We work together to unlock those experiences, safely reprocess them, and integrate them in a way that supports your growth.

​​Below, you'll find more about the specific approaches I use most often in session.

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​​PACT is one of the primary models I use when working with couples. It’s rooted in attachment theory, neuroscience, and arousal regulation. In a nutshell, PACT helps couples learn how to be a secure base for each other by understanding what’s happening in the body, the brain, and the dynamic between them, all in real time.

​​In session, this might sound like me saying, “Let’s slow this down — did you see what just happened on your partner’s face?” or “Notice what happens in your body when they say that.” We focus less on who’s right or what you're fighting about and more on what’s happening between you in your interactions. I coach and guide you in the moment, helping you interrupt old patterns and practice new ones, right there in the room.

​​PACT is dynamic, experiential, and highly effective for couples who want more than surface-level communication tools. We don't just spin in your cycle, and we don't only validate feelings (although there's plenty of validation to go around). It’s about shifting your relationship from reactive to responsive, from guarded to safe, and from confused to deeply understood.
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​​Couple therapy with me is unique because there are only a handful of PACT couple therapists in the state of Arizona. If you want focused, practical, effective change in your relationship, set up a consultation with me to get started.

Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT)

EMDR is a powerful, evidence-based therapy designed to help you reprocess traumatic memories that have become stuck. Using bilateral stimulation — like eye movements or tapping — we access the parts of the brain where distressing memories are stored and allow your system to integrate them in a healthier way.
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If you were in an EMDR session with me, I might say something like, “Let’s go back to that moment you described earlier — what are you noticing in your body as you bring it up?” From there, we’ll track your experience, let your brain do the healing work it naturally wants to do, and gently guide the process so you don’t get overwhelmed.

​​EMDR is especially useful for people who’ve tried to “think” their way out of something painful and found it didn’t work. This is a deeper kind of processing, and it’s designed to bring real relief. I always tell my folks that I believe it's the closest thing we have to magic.

​Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

​​IFS is a gentle, compassionate approach that helps you understand your internal world as made up of different “parts,” each with its own needs, fears, and protective strategies. Rather than seeing yourself as broken or inconsistent, we explore these parts of yourself with curiosity.

​​IFS is based on the understanding that all human beings are naturally complex. We all carry different internal parts that show up in different situations, often with different reactions or agendas. This isn’t the same as having multiple personalities — I get that question a lot. Think of it this way: say you were invited to attend your cousin's wedding. A part of you may want to go for the celebration, but another part of you may absolutely DREAD seeing certain extended family members. You might have a part that keeps the peace, another that jumps in to fix everything, and maybe one that lashes out when it feels cornered. IFS helps us make sense of those parts, understand where they came from, and build more harmony between them. It’s about seeing your system as wise and protective, not disordered or broken.

​​In session, it might sound like me saying, “Can we check in with the part of you that feels like it has to be perfect?” or “Let’s notice what comes up when that angry part steps forward.”

​​IFS allows for healing from the inside out. It teaches you to access your core Self — the calm, curious, grounded part of you — and relate to the rest of your system with understanding instead of judgment.

​Internal Family Systems (IFS)

​​Mindfulness is the practice of noticing without judgment and increasing your capacity to stay in the here-and-now. In therapy, I use mindfulness to help clients slow down and actually notice what’s happening in their thoughts, bodies, and emotions, as well as to support their skills and resourcing towards heavy trauma work.

​​This might sound like, “Let’s pause here. What are you sensing right now?” or “What physical sensations are you noticing right now?”

​​Mindfulness gives us access to the present moment, where change becomes possible. It builds awareness, increases regulation, and allows you to respond to life more intentionally and with more autonomy and choice.

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​​Somatic work simply means that we include the body in therapy. Since trauma lives in the body, we often need more than words to heal it. I incorporate somatic tracking, grounding, movement, and release techniques to help clients regulate their nervous systems and connect with what’s happening below the surface.

​​You might hear me say, “Let’s pay attention to that heaviness in your chest,” or “What urge comes with that sensation?” These interventions help bring your full self into the work, not just your thoughts, but your sensations, instincts, and intuition.

​​Somatic integration helps clients reconnect with their bodies in ways that feel empowering, not overwhelming. Together, we complete the motion that froze in your nervous system at the moment of your trauma.

somatic integration

​​Therapy with me is not just about talking. It’s relational, experiential, and designed to move you forward. Here’s a glimpse of what that can look like:

What this looks like in session...

​​No two sessions are exactly the same, because no two people are exactly the same. We tailor everything to your needs — moment by moment, session by session.

  • Slowing down moments of conflict so we can study the interaction and change the outcome in real time.
  • ​​Coaching you and your partner through new patterns of connection and repair while it’s happening — not after.
  • ​​Helping you notice what your nervous system is doing when you feel shut down, overwhelmed, or anxious.
  • ​​Supporting you in naming and working with different parts of yourself, especially the ones that feel stuck or in conflict.
  • ​​Teaching you tools that actually work outside of session, then checking in on how they’re landing.
  • ​​Guiding you through trauma processing gently and intentionally, always keeping your system in mind.

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​Fuller Theological Seminary:

Master Of Science In Marriage And Family Therapy, Emphasis In Medical Family Therapy


Training + Education

​​I believe good therapists are always learning. I participate in regular consultation, supervision, and continuing education to deepen my skill set and stay grounded in what actually works. My training is focused on trauma healing, attachment-based care, somatic integration, and couple therapy that leads to real and lasting change.

​California State University, East Bay:

​​Bachelor Of Arts, Psychology

Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT):

Coach, 2025
​​Level 2, 2023
​​Level 1, 2022


Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR):

​​Basic Training, 2021

​Restoration Therapy:

​​Level 1, 2020

​Professional Memberships:

​​American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)
​​EMDR International Association (EMDRIA)
​​Secular Therapy Project (STP)

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​​If you’re interested in learning more about how we might work together, I invite you to contact me for a consultation. I’d love to connect.