Couples don’t need to be in crisis to benefit from therapy. Most of the couples I work with are trying to get through the daily grind without losing each other in the process. Maybe it’s tension around household responsibilities, parenting stress, decision-making, or how conflict shows up when one person shuts down and the other gets loud. Maybe you're just trying to figure out how to not feel like you're walking on eggshells all the time. This work is about the little things that add up — the missed glances, the short tones, the lack of follow-through — and how those small ruptures start to feel like walls.

​​In our 90-minute sessions, we work on:

• ​​Learning how to handle everyday conflict without spiraling into defensiveness or disconnect
• ​​Building emotional closeness in the midst of busy lives
• ​​Figuring out how to navigate day-to-day responsibilities as a team
• ​​Noticing and shifting the automatic patterns that create distance or tension in your daily rhythm

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I stay engaged throughout our sessions. I’ll guide you both in noticing what’s happening between you, naming what’s beneath it, and practicing in real time what it takes to repair. These sessions are about creating a relationship that feels safer, more connected, and more equipped to handle what life throws your way.
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​​Trauma tends to show up in relationships whether we want it to or not. It might live in your history, your partner’s, or in moments you've shared together that left deep marks. The impact of trauma on a relationship isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it’s the shutdowns, the irritability, the deep sense of being alone even when you’re together. These patterns don’t mean your relationship is broken; they mean something in your system is still trying to protect you, even if the threat has long passed.

​​I specialize in working with couples where one or both partners are carrying trauma, including:

• ​​Childhood emotional neglect or abuse
• ​​Religious trauma or unresolved purity culture messaging
• ​​High-control or emotionally rigid family systems
• ​​Infidelity or betrayal
• ​​PTSD, dissociation, or nervous system dysregulation
• ​​Medical trauma
• ​​Traumatic loss

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When trauma is present, daily life can start to feel like survival. You might misread each other’s signals, react from old wounds, or struggle to trust that things are really okay. Even small misunderstandings can feel like major ruptures. Therapy helps us slow down and notice what’s actually happening in the moment — in your body, in your tone, in your cues to each other — so you can start responding from a place of connection, not defense.

​​Cultivating safety in a relationship is one of the most powerful ways to heal trauma. It’s why this work matters so much. When the relationship becomes a space for consistent care, safety, and understanding, healing starts to feel possible in the places that have been holding pain for far too long. The parts of you that learned to brace, to disappear, or to always stay on alert begin to soften. What’s left in their place is something that starts to feel like safety, trust, and home, perhaps for the first time in the context of an attachment-based relationship. 

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Faith transitions can shake the core of a relationship, especially when one partner begins to shift away from a belief system that was once shared by both partners. What once brought closeness might now feel like a wedge. It can feel like you're speaking different languages, trying to make decisions from opposite maps, or re-learning who your partner even is. The impact can feel like betrayal, even when there’s no wrongdoing, just change. This doesn’t mean the relationship has to end. It means the relationship needs renegotiation, guidance, and sensitivity to adjust.

​​I support couple who are:

• ​​Moving through deconstruction, spiritual questioning, or religious disillusionment
• ​​Navigating the ongoing negative impact of religious harm on their relationship
• ​​Leaving high-control, fundamentalist, or fear-based religious systems
• ​​Holding mismatched beliefs or values and unsure how to navigate the divide
• ​​Trying to co-parent or build a shared life with different faith frameworks

​​These transitions often surface grief, fear, and identity shifts. They also offer room for deep growth and new kinds of intimacy, if you have the appropriate support to move through them together. I bring calm, clarity, and structure to help couples stay connected in the midst of something that can feel incredibly destabilizing. Together, we create space to tell the truth, tend to the fear, show gentleness to the grief, and rebuild a shared sense of safety even when your beliefs don’t match exactly the way they used to.


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When trust is broken, everything shifts. The ground under your feet no longer feels solid, and suddenly even the familiar parts of the relationship can feel foreign. Betrayal doesn’t only come in the form of affairs. It can be emotional or sexual, but also financial, secretive, or even subtle forms of withholding, like hiding parts of your life that, if revealed, would change everything. Betrayal can look like broken agreements, ongoing dishonesty, or violations of safety and consent. Regardless of the form it takes, the impact is profound.
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In therapy, we’ll walk through the layers with care. Together, we will:

• ​​Understand what happened and why, without getting lost in blame or shame
• ​​Unpack the pain, grief, and confusion that each of you may be carrying
• ​​Rebuild trust through transparency, emotional attunement, and consistent action
• ​​Explore what accountability can look like, in a way that feels honoring to both people
• ​​Clarify what needs to change moving forward and define what rebuilding would actually take
• ​​Support both partners in deciding — with clarity, not pressure — whether and how to stay connected

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I won’t push a particular outcome. My role is to guide the process with structure, honesty, and compassion. Whether you’re rebuilding together or figuring out what comes next, you don’t have to navigate this rupture alone.
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*This particular presenting issue often benefits immensely from couples therapy intensives, which offer the time, structure, and momentum needed to begin meaningful repair without the limitations of weekly sessions.*



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​​Preparing for marriage, moving in together, expanding your family, or making a long-term commitment is one of the most exciting and meaningful seasons a couple can walk through. Excitement is more sustainable with a solid foundation. That’s where premarital and pre-commitment therapy can be such a gift. This process is about preventing problems and setting your relationship up to thrive.

​​These sessions are collaborative, engaging, and often really fun. You’ll have the chance to learn more about each other in ways that deepen connection, spark important conversations, and give you real skills for navigating life together. Whether you're blending families, aligning life goals, or just wanting to be proactive, this is one of the most worthwhile investments you can make in your relationship.

​​Premarital therapy with me helps you:

• ​​Understand your relational patterns and attachment styles
• ​​Get ahead of family patterns
• ​​Define your shared goals, values, and where you naturally differ
• ​​Practice how to repair after conflict in ways that actually bring you closer
• ​​Clarify expectations and define what is and isn’t okay for each of you
• ​​Build rituals, habits, and communication styles that help your relationship grow instead of wear down

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While we’ll cover important foundations, this isn’t a scripted program. It’s customized to the two of you — your stories, your strengths, your hopes. You’ll leave with clarity, practical tools, and a deeper sense of partnership that can carry you through the exciting (and sometimes bumpy) path ahead.

​​*If you want to jumpstart this process with some real traction, premarital and pre-commitment intensives are a fantastic option. Extended sessions give you the space to dig deep, get clear, and set a strong foundation without the stop-and-start rhythm of weekly therapy. They're a great fit for couples who are motivated, curious, and excited to grow together with focused guidance and uninterrupted time.*




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